Timeout for Confidence

Black Velvet

Velvet is a Toy Manchester Terrier; a former show dog, and all-around prima donna. When she retired from the show ring, my family adopted her as a pet.

Trimming Velvet’s Claws

Velvet’s life as a show dog was about adhering to rules, including a rule dictating the length of her claws. Between shows her claws would grow out, only to be cut back once again to regulation length. Necessary perhaps, but also painful and frightening for a little dog; 18* bleeding claws will do that.

By the time we adopted Velvet at the age of 2½, her fear of claw trimming was deeply engrained, and overrode any developing trust she had in me. Monthly trims became snarling, squirming sessions, that left everyone exhausted, and usually me scratched or bitten. One day, I decided we needed a timeout. So I switched to trimming only one claw per day. Our sessions were suddenly much shorter, Velvet was rewarded more frequently (a cookie every day) and I had fewer scratches. Years later she’s still nervous, but at least now she can tolerate all 18 claws being trimmed in one session.

Preserving Fancy’s Confidence

Timeouts improved Velvet’s ability to cope with a challenging situation. It seemed logical that the concept would work just as well with a horse. And now in hindsight, I think timeouts played a significant role in building Fancy’s overall confidence.

As a recent example, timeouts became an important component when training Fancy to become confident with mounting. In the beginning, I gave her a timeout every time I dismounted, simply by going for a walk around the arena. Of course, this meant that our timeouts were actually longer than the actual mounting exercise. But as Fancy’s confidence grew the timeouts became shorter, until they were phased out completely for that task.

I look at it as managing my expectations, in order to preserve Fancy’s confidence for tomorrow.

* 16 toes and 2 dew claws

I’m in the Saddle!

Our Wintec SaddleTonight I mounted Xena for the first time, using her saddle! I don’t have a photo for posterity or her blog, so I guess you’ll just have to trust me. :)

Xena has been wearing her saddle for a month in our groundwork sessions, and now seems very comfortable with the stirrups flapping at the jog and lope. Tacking up is now the norm for us, and she allows me to fully tighten the cinch, in 3 or 4 stages.

Stepping up

Last week I began stepping up into one stirrup. Over several days this progressed to putting my right hip in the saddle, stroking her neck, and finally asking her to turn on the forehand by just one step — I’m building towards our emergency stop. Each time I dismounted, we took a break. I wanted to give her time to think, and to make this experience as different as possible from past professional trainers.

The process of mounting Xena has been very slow, and also very challenging. I have to remind myself that there’s no timeline for riding, because it takes a lot of discipline to keep my promise of ‘baby steps’. It’s too easy to rush past something that seems minor, but which is actually a big threshold for her.

Mounting

Tonight I went to the barn dressed to ride, with the promise of letting Xena determine what we’d work on. We had the arena to ourselves, and Xena seemed confident and connected to me. So after a 7 Games warm-up, I attached the reins to her halter, hooked them over the saddle horn, and we began circling the arena at liberty. She stayed at my side as we ran, walked, stopped and backed up, completely in sync and connected only by our bond of trust and love — I know it sounds corny, but that’s just how is. :)

I decided not to use the mounting block in the corner, so instead I stood on my Ikea stool on the quarter line at ‘E’ — again, just trying to be different. I set Xena up so she was facing the long wall, which was about 8 feet away; I was preplanning in case she panicked. Because I was mounting on her left, she would naturally shy to the right. By facing the wall it would cause her to turn left and disengage her hindquarters; the basis of the emergency stop.

I began by reviewing stepping up in the stirrup, placing my right hip in the saddle and dismounting a moment later — she was familiar with this from last week. After several practice attempts, I finally swung my leg over. A moment later I dismounted, and took her for a walk around the arena. After one lap, we returned to the mounting stool. I repeated this 7 times. Each time I mounted and dismounted, it was followed by a lap around the arena. By the 5th mounting she blew as we re-approached the mounting stool, and on the 7th I asked her for a one-step turn on the forehand (lateral flexion, using just the reins). I dismounted, and called it a very successful night.

Xena was a bit tense at times, but never panicked or introverted, and she offered flexion each time I asked. I think the walks around the arena may have been the best part, because it gave her time to think and prevented me from being overly ambitious. My plan is to repeat this pattern of mounting, dismounting, and walking for 3 or 4 weeks. If she needs longer, then we’ll just keep practicing.

Note to Self: It’s all about baby steps!

A Look Back

  • Feb 2009 – We began playing the 7 Games Online.
  • Aug 2010 – I created a pre-ride training plan based on the Parelli 7 Games, with the unspoken goal of mounting Xena within 6 months.
  • Sept – I bought her a bareback pad to wear during our groundwork sessions and begin laying over her back on a regular basis.
  • Oct – I bought a tall stool, and begin standing on it to play the 7 Games from a height, in the arena and her stall.
  • Dec 18 – I mounted her for the first time, using a bareback pad and rope halter.
  • Feb 4 – Xena begins wearing her new saddle during our Online & Liberty groundwork sessions.
  • Feb 27 – I stood in the stirrup for the first time (our 2-year Anniversary!)
  • March 5 – I sat in the saddle for the first time!

Updates

  • March 18 – I mounted Xena for the 41st time! We did a 360 turn on the forehand and she offered to walk forward 25′.
  • March 20 – I mounted her for the 54th time, and asked her to walk forward about 70′.
  • March 24 – I’ve set two cones about 50′ apart. We mount at one, walk to the other and dismount. Then repeat three more times.
  • March 27 – Rode Fancy for 10 min; our longest ride yet! We’re wandering around, doing lots of circles (her choice) and playing touch-it with pylons.

  • April 1 – We rode for 20 minutes with lots of circles, figure-8s and weaving around pylons at the walk. In the last 5 minutes, a friend quietly led her horse into the arena, and Fancy was confident enough that I chose to stay mounted. Within a couple minutes, the two horses were walking side-by-side around the arena (I rode, my friend led her horse). It was the first time I’ve ridden Fancy, with another horse in the arena!

I guess you could say we’re making amazing progress!

Xena’s Horsenality Report

Xena's Left-Brain Extrovert Chart - click to enlarge

Horsenality™ is a combination of the words ‘horse’ and ‘personality’. The Horsenality™ Report was created by Parelli Natural Horsemanship™ to help horse owners better understand equine psychology, by analyzing their horse’s innate personality traits. By knowing a horse’s psychological strengths, challenges and attributes, it’s possible to create a more customized training plan.

Visit Parelli.com for more details on the Horsenality™ system.

Right-Brian Extrovert

I’ve filled out the free Horsenality™ chart on Xena a few times. Two years ago, she exhibited many of the right-brain extrovert personality traits — impulsive, panicky, over reactive, hyper alert, spooky, high headed and bracy. At that time I thought of her as an extreme RBE, and it kept me from being hurt during one of her many spooks and panics.

Right-Brian Introvert

Last summer, I thought she’d become quite confident, so I changed my training tactics a bit. But, after a few weeks I realized I’d misread her, as she became very introverted when stressed or overwhelmed; she was now an RBI / RBE. The right-brain introvert traits are: tense, unpredictable, explosive, timid, hesitant, and shut down. This was right in-line with how previous riders had described her, and it became the focus of my study for the next 6 months. Read about one of our introverted episodes

Extreme Left-Brian Extrovert

Lately, I’ve been seeing a more confident mare, so this time I ordered the comprehensive online version of the Horsenality™ report. I was surprised when it concluded that Xena had transitioned into being an extreme left-brain extrovert! An LBE is: energetic, mischievous, playful, willful and mouthy — and Xena is all these, but to a lessor degree because she’s not yet as confident as most LBEs. She’s considered ‘extreme’ because she still has several strong right-brain qualities, although these seem to be gradually diminishing.

Since receiving the Horsenalty™ report, Xena and I have played together three times, and I’ve concentrated on treating her more like an energetic LBE, than a fragile RBI. What a difference that’s made! She seemed to enjoy the challenge, and we both had a great time. I think we’ll be making rapid progress in the next few months, now that I know she’s confident enough to handle more challenging training sessions.

The long and short of it is, she’s constantly changing. And, I’m constantly studying horsemanship, just to keep up with her! But, I wouldn’t want it any other way.

P.S. – A few hours after I wrote this article, Xena allowed me to stand in the stirrups for the first time, and hold her tongue for the Vet!


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Weaver Smart Cinch

When I first thought of riding Xena, I couldn’t decide between Western and English. I wasn’t strongly affiliated with either riding style, because I’d take both English and Western riding lessons. But in my heart I knew Western was my first choice, because Xena was bred for Western Performance and she’s from Alberta — home of the Rocky Mountains, Calgary Stampede, cowboy hats and all things Western. But first, I had to solve my problem with the Western-style latigo and cinch.

The root of my problem is that I have Osteoarthritis in my hands — it’s painful, ugly and debilitating. In the last 4 years, several of my fingers have become so contorted that I’ve lost much of my grip strength and fine motor skills. When it comes to riding, tightening and adjusting a traditional cinch is difficult because of my weakened grip, so I often have to ask for help. For this reason alone, I was considering an English saddle because English billets are somewhat easier on my hands.

Smart Cinch by Weaver Leather

The Smart Cinch has been a great solution for me. The cinch buckle has two slots with individual steel rollers for each wrap of the latigo. When the latigo is tightened it slides smoothly over the steel rollers, without the friction of leather on leather. With the Smart Cinch I’m able to tighten the cinch most of the way with only one hand. It’s made a huge difference for me and I highly recommend it — even if you don’t have arthritis, the Smart Cinch just makes life easier.

I bought my cinch at Greenhawk Harness & Equestrian Supplies. If you’d like more info, there’s a video demo on YouTube and a brochure by Weaver Leather.